Do Men Lie About Penis Size And Why?

The size of a man’s dick is always something that raises a lot of eyebrows for both men and women. Today’s modern-day culture glorifies males with large penes. The love of the large penis is largely emphasized through mainstream media but largely in porn which more people are now watching.

Before going on with this reading take a few seconds to pause and think about what your thoughts are in regards to what the normal size of a man’s penis should be (both flaccid and erect).

History has shown us that the size of a men’s penis meant different things in different societies. In ancient Egypt, a large penis was seen as a sign of potency. It should be noted that only the higher ranking Egyptian deities had the power to reproduce sexually and hence were always portrayed with a large penis.

Studies have even gone further to prove that since the early medieval times, Arabic literature emphasizes that penis size is “a sign of honour” [1]. In ancient Greece however, a small penis on the other hand was considered more desirable with Historian Paul Chrystal having been quoted saying that having a small penis was the badge of the highest culture and a paragon of civilization [2].

Clinical research shows us that the average penial length of a man is 9.16 cm (3.6 inches) flaccid and 13.12 cm (5.1 inches) erect [3]. Despite this, it seems that there is a general belief within the society that the male penis should be large, the larger the better. For some reason, six inches exists as a form of de facto benchmark as the length in which an average penis should be.

Even though there is so much talk in respect to penial length, the girth or circumference of a penis is another factor to consider. On average the average circumference of a male penis is 9.40 cm (3.7 inches) flaccid and 11.66 cm (4.5 inches) erect [4]. Studies have even shown that most women prefer the width of the penis more often to the actual length of the penis.

This brings us to the question of the day: Do men lie about their penis size?

The answer is a resounding yes.

Men lie about the size of their penis for a host of reasons and these lies are directed not only to their sexual partners but also to other people within their social circles i.e family friends and even acquaintances. An article by Men’s Health indicated that Australian men were the most likely individuals to lie about the size of their penis.

In the same study, it was found out that Indian men ironically underestimated the size of their penes [5].

5 major reasons why men lie about the size of their penis

Below lies a list of 5 major reasons why men lie about the size of their penis;

1. A larger package is associated with pleasurable sex

The main assumption that most men have is that having a larger penis is the only way that they can please a woman. Unfortunately, this is what they hear from porn, other men and even women.

It then goes without mentioning that for most men there is a general feeling that if one is honest about the size of their penis if it is small it lowers their chances of being able to get the women into the sheets. This leads to many men feeling the pressure to have to prove that they are larger than what they are.

Taking a look at porn and all the other mainstream media today one can see how men within a big package are glorified. The perceptions that are portrayed in these platforms have therefore made studies that state that penis size is not the only contributing factor to the overall female pleasure of a woman during intercourse redundant.

In her 2020 article, Dr Janet Brito illustrates that there are so many other factors including stamina, type of sexual positions, exploring kinks and different places as well as interacting with your partner as one of the many other factors that influence the sexual pleasure of a woman [6].

2. The need to be more masculine

Many psychological studies have shown that telling a man that he has a small penis is a very way in which to make a man feel emasculated. In one such study on men in the USA psychologist, Dr Russel Elisenman indicated that there this issue surrounding the size of a penis is largely based on symbolism which in turn shapes the perception that most men have concerning penis size [7] . Most men can agree to the fact that being to and especially by a woman is the most emasculating thing that one may experience.

Pop culture often references this issue of symbolism pointing out a commonly talked about phenomenon known as the Small penis syndrome. Common reference points are associated with assumptions that men flash cars as well as big houses as a means to compensate for having a small penis.

3. Big Dick Energy Stereotypes

There is a lot of stereotypes that exist out there that have to do with the length of a penis. The most commonly known stereotype that exists is that black men have big penes. A study on Race bases stereotypes indicated that this belief was widely endorsed by manly black men [8]. You could call this a win for black men, which has led a lot of men to accept it and move with the so-called bid-dick-energy vibe that black men exude.

This is no wonder why pop culture, as well as porn, has capitalized on this stereotype. In porn for example sub-genres such as Big Black Cocks (BBC) as well as Black Cocks (BC) have gained immense popularity by displaying the sexual process of black men with large penes.

After talking largely about why men exaggerate the size of the packages they hold underneath their pants it’s also imperative that we also look at the reasons why other men underestimate the size of their penis.

4. Self Esteem and Mental Wellness

One of the main issues discussed above pointed out that the majority of men overestimate the size of their penis due to their desire to boost their egos. However for individuals who are already struggling with their egos as a result of depression, anxiety and social withdrawal the opposite is usually apparent. Dr Shamloul was quoted saying that people who suffered from these conditions despite being a minority were most likely to lay claim to having a smaller penis than what they were packing [9].

5. Fear of not getting intimate partners

Ironically, even though it seems that a lot of men seem to want to have a larger package underneath their pants there is evidence that men with the largest pins struggle when it comes to developing intimate relationships.

The issue lies from either the fear of hurting their partners and also from the fact that men also indicate that other sexual partners only use them as a means of experimenting with no intentions of developing an actual relationship.

In an anonymous interview with Men’s Health magazine, one of the men interviewed indicated that he struggled to bring up the subject of how large their penis was as some women were only interested in them primarily because of their penis [10]. 

In the study already indicated above Professor Eiseman indicates that a significant number of women fear becoming intimate with men with large penes as they fear getting hurt.

Conclusion

In conclusion, it’s important to note that the package lying underneath the pants of a man can cause insecurities to all men despite the size. As such all men have to be comfortable with their size to be able more comfortable with their bodies and in turn enjoy a more satisfactory sex life. Whatever the size it be rest assured and know that it can do the job (smile face).

References

1. Salama, N. (2016). Consultation for Small-Sized Penis in the Egyptian Males: A Case Control Study. American Journal of Men’s Health, 220–227. https://doi.org/10.1177/1557988314565167
2. Chystal P (2016). In Bed with the Ancient Greek, Amber Publishing.  https://www.amazon.com/Bed-Ancient-Greeks-Paul-Chrystal/dp/1445654121
3. Wise, J. (2015). Average length of a flaccid and erect penis is published to help counsellors. BMJ, 350(mar02 15), doi: https://doi.org/10.1136/bmj.h1193
4. Veale, D., Miles, S., Bramley, S., Muir, G., & Hodsoll, J. (2015). Am I normal? A systematic review and construction of nomograms for flaccid and erect penis length and circumference in up to 15,521 men. BJU international, 115(6), 978–986. https://doi.org/10.1111/bju.13010
5. https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19542547/penis-size-men-lie-country-study/
6. Dr. Janet Brito (2020) https://www.healthline.com/health/healthy-sex/does-size-matter
7. Eisenman, R. (2001). Penis size: Survey of female perceptions of sexual satisfaction. BMC Women’s Health 1, 1. https://doi.org/10.1186/1472-6874-1-1
8. Wilson, P. A., Valera, P., Ventuneac, A., Balan, I., Rowe, M., & Carballo-Dieguez, A. (2009). Race-based sexual stereotyping and sexual partnering among men who use the internet to identify other men for bareback sex. Journal of sex research, 46(5), 399–413. https://doi.org/10.1080/00224490902846479
9. Dr Shamloul: https://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/men-underestimate-penis-size-study-says/article983397/#:~:text=A%20minority%20of%20men%20who,Dr.&text=Over%20two%20years%2C%20he%20examined,either%20while%20flaccid%20or%20erect.
10. https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19547778/big-penis-problems/