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Introduction
When you hear about unwanted pregnancies and STD’s being on the rise, you tend to think of people who passed up on the opportunity to use protection when the opportunity arose.
In many cases, the onus is on the man to deliver protection in the form of condoms, but we are all well aware that a lot of guys try to avoid using condoms whenever possible.
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What may come as a surprise is that younger women are now also routinely trying to talk their partners out of using condoms, and they will go to all kinds of lengths to make sure that it happens.
In this article we’ll try to examine all the possible reasons and excuses both genders use in order to avoid condoms.
First let’s look at some common tactics men have been known to use.
Reasons Men Will Try to Get Out of Using Condoms
Condoms Don’t Fit Me
This one is something that is based on personal feeling that they don’t fit. Condoms are made to be durable, and stretchy.
If you go to YouTube and search for a video that shows people manipulating condoms by literally putting a regular condom over their entire arm, another gets it over a basketball, another on their entire foot.
But it is all about comfort as well. This can be easily mitigated by trying out a few different kinds, different brands, many which are sold online.
Some on the smaller side might need to use ones that are made a bit tighter than others and thinner, while others do need something a bit bigger.
It’s an excuse that can be fixed by a bit of research, as well as trial and error. One that doesn’t fit correctly, can slip or break and cause unwanted or unintended pregnancy or contraction of an STI/STD.
However, finding the right one can bring about more comfort for the man and the woman along with safety as well.
So although the ones they get might not be comfortable, they can find ones that can enhance the moment instead of hinder it.
I Don’t have any Diseases, We’ll be Fine
Unless they are tested after every sexual encounter, and even six months out, this is not guaranteed. Lack of symptoms is not something that inherently makes them safe.
Take HPV for example, it’s not something that men have symptoms of, but for women, it can cause a host of problems that range to infertility and cancer. And men, a little over 73 percent of the[1], think that by telling you they are clean, they will win you over.
And if by telling them that you can’t totally be sure, you can tell them that you want to prevent pregnancy as well and reach for a condom. If that still dissuades them, well then they again, know where the door is.
But I Want to Feel You
This is a common one. Men say that it doesn’t feel as good with one because they can’t feel you. However, through a process of trial and elimination you can find ones that you both like (been there, done that) and if you find one, order them online in bulk, that might be the best option even.
But even so, about half of all men try this tactic. One reason that this doesn’t hold up is that there are also different types of condoms, some with or without lube (which can help the situation), some with ribs, heat activated ones, ultra thin ones, etc.
There are plenty out there to make the situation feel that much better. Plus it may help reduce the anxiety of an unwanted pregnancy or an STD, which can help women climax better.
I’m Allergic to Latex
I’ll start by saying the could be a legitimate reason, for about 2.4 seconds. After that, it doesn’t hold water, because there are plenty of condoms that are latex free.
See, condom manufacturers were well versed on the fact that latex is an allergen for both men and women, so they catered to it. SKYN is one brand that you will hear a lot about because they are made of a natural rubber, polyisoprene[2], the latex alternative.
So if they say they allergic, or you are allergic, bring some with you.
Remember, close to 80 percent of men try to resist using condoms[3], so why not have some plans up front about how to handle it.
Yes, it’s a touchy subject and can completely kill the mood in the moment, but a respectable person, who respects their morals and values and those of the person they are with, will not hesitate to do as you please, especially if they are trying to see you again.
Now let’s see which Tactics young women in order to avoid using condoms, according to a recent study.
Tactics Young Women Use To Avoid Using Condoms
What The Study Says
The Journals of Sex posted the results of a study into women and condom use in their issue, showing that ladies frequently resorted to techniques designed to stop their partners from wearing condoms.
Researchers surveyed 235 sexually-active women, aged between 18 and 20, and found out that half of them convinced their partner to not use a condom.
One of the most common tactics that women use to get guys to ditch condoms is to convince their potential partner that they are clean.
They will also talk about how they are at a stage in their cycle when they are not at risk for pregnancy, and usually save these comments for a time in the sexual proceedings where there is no turning back.
It generally isn’t a very long conversation or arm-twisting process, as guys are usually more than happy to go in bareback, especially when they are at that point of no return.
For some women, withholding sex is a tactic that is used to get their man to give up on condoms. There are even some ladies who have resorted to getting physical in order to keep the rubber all wrapped up in its packet.
Women want to remain in control of sex, and calling the shots on when condoms should and should not be used is just one way of doing that. It should be noted here that many women who used tactics to keep their man from wearing a condom did so while they were under the influence of alcohol.
Previous STI issues also played a role in whether women wanted a condom present during sex.
What Are The Consequences
You need only look as far as an online forum called “The Straight Dope” to read about some real-world examples of what can happen when you ditch a condom. Here are a few examples:
A few times, but one of them I got chlamydia from
I have a friend who supports a 12-year-old child because his girlfriend wanted to get pregnant and lied about being on the pill.
Hubby and I decided after years of trying for children that we did not need birth control because of the infertility diagnosis.
I’m now pregnant with baby number 2.
As you can see not using a condom can be a risky business.
While it may seem odd that women would resort to these tactics, it should not be viewed as a sign that they are being irresponsible when it comes to sex. There are a number of different factors at play here, the first of which is that women are now very much in control of their own safety and prevention.
There are all sorts of different things that females can use to prevent unwanted pregnancies, and while those may not stop the spread of STD’s, choosing a partner that they know to be clean can take care of that.
Women should definitely be allowed to have a say in what type of protection, if any, should be used during sex, but guys should still always have condoms ready to go if they plan on being sexually active.
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References:
- Women’s Health Magazine. 5 Things Men Say to Avoid Using Condoms. https://www.womenshealthmag.com/relationships/5-things-men-say-to-avoid-using-condoms
- Very Well. SKYN Non-Latex Condoms. https://www.verywell.com/skyn-non-latex-condoms-906782
- Laura Argintar via Elite Daily. 17 Ridiculous Excuses Men Will Use So They Don’t Have to Wear Condoms. https://www.elitedaily.com/dating/excuses-guys-no-condom/817443
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