We’ve all been in this situation before. Things start to get hot between you and your romantic partner, the situation escalates, and you’re ready to start having sex when the inevitable issue comes up. Condom or no condom?
Protected sex is extremely important because it protects you and your partner from STDs and pregnancy; however, sometimes condoms are not always readily available at your disposal. It can be difficult to turn down a steamy sexual encounter just because there is no sign of a condom anywhere, and once things start getting hot and heavy it can be almost impossible to say no. So what do you do? Here are a few options:
1. Just wait
It sounds simple, but it rarely is. Deciding to forgo sex because you do not have a condom is a difficult decision, but it is one of the smartest. Sometimes you just need to exercise extra caution, especially if you don’t feel entirely comfortable with the situation. Saying no to having unprotected sex is the best way to prevent STDs or pregnancy. You can just wait until next time, or if you’re that desperate, make a trip to the local store. Not having unprotected sex is the best form of contraception.
2. Rely on birth control
If you do not have a condom and birth control pills are being used, you may be able to go ahead and have sex with less worry in your mind. Birth control pills help prevent ovulation by preventing the ovaries from releasing eggs. This stops fertilization and pregnancy. The pill also thickens the cervical mucus so that the sperm cannot reach the egg, and it makes the lining of the uterus unreceptive to fertilized egg implantation.
Women on birth control pills will be less likely to get pregnant during unprotected sex. However, no method is a solid guarantee, and birth control does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases.
3. Plan B
Plan B, also known as the morning-after pill, is a form of emergency contraception used as birth control to prevent pregnancy up to five days after unprotected sex. Plan B is often used for accidents involving unprotected sex, and it is not recommended to be taken regularly. It contains the same hormones used in many birth control pills but at a higher dose, and it is not effective enough to be used as a regular birth control. However, Plan B is generally safe and effective when taken the morning after unprotected intercourse.
4. Use the pull out method
In the circumstance that you absolutely cannot wait to have sex and are without a condom, most people go for the pull out method. Also known as the withdrawal method and coitus interruptus, it is used during intercourse when the man pulls his penis out of the vagina before ejaculation. It helps prevent pregnancy by keeping the sperm out of the vagina. Many couples who do not like using condoms opt for this method instead.
Like other methods, however, it is not always completely effective. Couples with greater self-control, experience, and trust may use the pull out method more effectively. It is important to have good communication and trust with your partner in order for this method to work. Unless men can predict the moment they are reaching the point of sexual excitement where ejaculation can no longer be stopped, withdrawal will not happen effectively.
Even if the man pulls out, a pregnancy can still occur. Experts believe that pre-ejaculate, or pre cum, can pick up enough sperm left in the urethra to cause pregnancy. Pregnancy is also possible if semen or pre-ejaculate is spilled on the vulva. Withdrawal also does not protect you from sexually transmitted diseases. Obviously, this option should only be used if you’re are in a committed relationship and are willing to take the risks.
If the situation arises where having unprotected sex becomes an option, it is almost always best to wait. However, should the encounter go further than expected, there are various methods that can be used to lessen the chance of possible pregnancy as a result of unprotected intercourse. While these methods can be effective, they are not always 100% preventative and therefore should not be used regularly. If you are without a condom, it may be best to just wait until you can ensure that both you and your partner can be protected.